Demi Lovato on being non-binary: 'My masculine and feminine energies are equal'

The 29-year-old came out as non-binary in May after previously coming out as pansexual.


Words: Alastair James; pictures: HBO

Demi Lovato has opened up about coming out as non-binary saying that they’ve been living their life “as loudly as possible without a care in the world.”

The ‘Sorry not Sorry’ singer, 29, also discussed how they explain being non-binary to other people, as well as saying they have "a lot of grace" for people who get their pronouns wrong.

They say that quarantine gave them a lot of time to reflect on things and learn more about who they are.

“My masculine and feminine energies are equal”

In an interview with NBC’s Today programme Demi said: “I came out as non-binary in May and ever since then it’s just felt like my truth has been living my life as loudly as possible without a care in the world.”

Asked by Hoda Kotb how they explain being non-binary Demi replies, while recognising they can’t speak for everyone’s experience, that they came to the realisation they are equally masculine as feminine.

Lovato continues: “My masculine and feminine energies are equal. So much so that I don’t… I may be wearing a dress and heels right now, but I don’t identify as just a woman or just a man. I identify with both.”

The ‘Give Your Heart a Break’ singer and Camp Rock actor says they have “a lot of grace” for people getting their pronouns wrong, admitting they also get them wrong from time to time.

Later in the interview, when asked about their busy schedule, Demi said they do take time for themselves. “Luckily I’m in a position in my career where I’ve kind of paid my dues a little bit I’ve been around the block," they said.

“So, I don’t have to run myself into the ground anymore like I used to when I was first starting out.”

The ‘Skyscraper’ balladeer says they made bad choices when they were previously running out of fumes adding: “Now I can say that because I’ve found balance in almost every sense of the word I feel better, I feel like I’m in a great place.”

The musician has previously struggled with addiction, which formed the basis for their latest album, Dancing with the Devil.

In August, the star said there may come a time when they "identify as trans," pointing out that identity is often a journey.

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